Negative people have a problem for every solution.
How to stay positive around negative people
We all encounter negative people in our daily lives. In the home, in our social circles, on social media and even more so in the work place. So it is difficult to keep an optimistic attitude, when others around you don’t share the same values or deliberately try to sabotage your belief or what you are trying to do.
We’ve all been there. We put energy and enthusiasm into an idea, then when presented to another, it becomes frowned on or criticised. Now, we should all aspire to welcome criticism when constructive, but on this occasion it is a sheer block. A result of some attitude more personal to the individual than to the benefit of the cause.
The negative energy is contagious and creates negative thoughts in your own mind, no matter how enthusiastic or excited you might have felt. Without the right mental skills in place, this negativity makes you feel frustrated and lures you to follow that same path to the darkside.
Below are just some of the ways you can remain positive around negative people that we are unable to avoid.
Don’t take it personally
In most cases, another’s negativity might not even be about you at all. The negative person might be having a bad day or other life experiences which are causing them stress. Or, maybe it is intentional and they are simply trying to gain an edge over you for self gain. Either way, it is often the case that the underlying issues are within the individuals themselves.
This is a tough thing to do, especially when it feels like you are being directly victimised, but follows on from not taking the situation personally.
Often, negative people are struggling with a situation unknown to us. The underlying pain can consume them completely and result in unexpected or irrational behaviour. This is generally more a cry for help.
Listen with empathy. Keep in mind that the person may be dealing with untold situations or feelings inside. Maybe reach out to them. Ask them if everything is okay. This may highlight their behaviour if nothing else.
Respond, don’t react
The catalyst to any arguement. Our response to a given situation can fuel it in either way – turning up the heat or calming it down.
Make a point to be exceptionally calm in negative or even confrontational situations. Reverse your reactions into a calm response. It is really easy to mirror the behaviour of other’s. So speak clearly and softly, even when being presented with yelling or bad language. This positive approach will leave you feeling more positive about yourself, whilst usually leave the other person feeling rather silly.
We all learn many lessons in life and maybe right now is the time for you. Similarly, said negative person needs to come to their own realisations in time. This realisation allows us to view everything with a much broader outlook and not limit our thinking.
Keep it brief
Negativity only survives when it has attention. Remove the audience, and the negativity fades away.
If you have no choice to deal with a negative person, then keep interactions to a minimum. Prolonged exposure can be draining and maybe overwhelming in time.
Communicate… but do not engage.
Meditate – stay in the moment
Much of our negative thinking comes from dwelling on things that have happened in the past – what he or she said, what I said back, what happened. Or worrying about what might happen in the future, when in fact the future does not exist, only the ‘now’ and usually what we think will happen in the future generally does not.
The practice of meditation teaches us to remain in the present. Allows us to focus on the now and learn to observe our thoughts and feelings, but able to choose what to follow and what to pay no attention to.